One Is A Great Guy And The Other Is Good In Bed; Who Do I Choose?

Having been single for some time, two men have recently come into my life. Personality-wise, one is everything I want – fun, silly and intellectual.

We clicked from the start. However, the sex has been odd, stilted and a bit awkward. I am attracted to him, love kissing him, but the chemistry isn’t there. I am wondering if it’s nerves and might get better. He mentioned his ex didn’t have a high sex drive and they were in an almost sexless relationship, so he could be “out of practice”.

The other guy, who I’m seeing more on the side, is really good in bed. There’s an intense sexual chemistry between us, very primal and instinctive. It’s a strange dynamic, though, as we hardly speak. He comes round and we jump into bed. I don’t know him at all.

I’m trying to go with my head and focus on the first guy, because this could be a relationship with legs. At the same time, when he’s not there, I can’t help reaching for my phone and asking the other to come round.

I don’t want a relationship with him – at least I think I don’t. But the sex is so good. I think I know how to resolve this – cut out the “sex” guy – but it’s easier said than done.