Hello Readers may the peace of the Lord be with you and your wonderful followers. God bless you for the great impact you are making.
ANONYMOUS PLEASE
I have an issue that I want you and the family here to help me figure out what to do. My fiancée and I have been facing issues for some time now. I used the word fiancée because we are engaged. The introduction/knocking has been done already, and our preparations towards our marriage are 70% complete. My lady is a teacher, and her ex, whom she broke up with before we started dating, is the headmaster of the same school where she teaches. Her ex is her boss.
My worry now is that in 2021, I caught my woman cheating with her ex, with whom she still works. I was heartbroken, but I love her, so I forgave her after her apology. I insisted that she stops working with her ex to restore trust and peace. Consequently, I got a teaching job in a different private school that possibly pays more than what she earns at her ex’s place. However, she asked me for some time to decide. Unfortunately, the vacancy I secured for her was given to someone else because she wasn’t ready for the offer. It has been one and a half years now since the cheating incidents, and she is still asking for more time. She claims there is nothing going on between her and her ex anymore, so I shouldn’t worry, and she will stop working there at the right time.
I love her deeply, but the emotional torment I have endured has finally taken its toll. A few days ago, I discussed with her again how uncomfortable I am with her spending almost half of every five days working with the ex she cheated on me with. She doesn’t see anything wrong with continuing to work with him. Anytime I bring up this issue, she claims I’m talking too much and tells me never to discuss it again. I love her, but I feel she is being selfish and does not care about my feelings. Though I have forgiven her long ago, it’s difficult for me to forget the pain and hurt she put me through, especially when she is still working with him. On Monday morning, I told her that I can’t tolerate this anymore, and she must either stop working there or I would need a breakup. However, she hasn’t said a word since then.
I have been emotionally tormented for more than a year now, going through depression and still suffering within. Yet, I love her so very much.
Please tell me, am I overreacting? Am I being too harsh on her? Should I still give her more time to work with him? What should I do now?
