Dear Readers Help! I Feel Pains during sèx; could someone here or a doctor explain more about this to me?

Hi Abena, Soo I’m used to reading but today I think I want to share something I found out about my body this year with you.

How are you by the way? First of all, thank you for this platform. We learn every day.

Have you heard the word “Vaginismus” is the body’s automatic reaction to the fear of some or all types of vaginal penetration. Whenever penetration is attempted, your vaginal muscles tighten up on their own. You have no control over it. Occasionally, you can get vaginismus even if you have previously enjoyed painless penetrative sex.

So this is how I found out there was nothing wrong with me. But I just had the fear of penetration.

I’m in my early 30s I had my first sex 2 years ago. Yaaa I know right ?? Grew up with granny and you all can relate soo self discipline dierrr I had it . And telling you to abstain etc

Back to my experience it was really dramatic thou before that I had tried but I always get scared or push him away which lead to my break ups (two past relationships) I thought there was something wrong with me. I even decided to be celibate because of the pain.

Back to two years ago He tried soo hard for two days trying to hit it .. when he finally went in Abena I screamed I cried .. was soo painful .. my veejayjay was burning .

Thinking I was free Abena hmm second time trying again was dramatic and was painful again I really tot there was something wrong with me after the break up I had to take a break from relationships go back to being celibate ..

Wanted to see a doctor but was too scared I had to sit down talk to myself read more then I came across this word whiles seeing a video.

That was when I realized that psychologically there was something wrong then I knew everything starts with me removing fear and watching “certain videos “ too (kinda helped) Didol too.

I met someone along the line explained to him. Mhen it was a decision we tried n he was gentle thou I still felt the pain like a new virgin it hurt soo bad but I finally did. Let’s say for the first time I enjoyed sex . Not tried thou but I know I need to relax I intend seeing a doctor too thou.

I’m sharing this because I really would love to learn more also if doctors here could also explain more about this to us especially men who are impatient ..

Sometimes it’s not the fear of sex its penetration That scares us.